There’s the Oprah Effect, the Dr. Oz Effect, even the Coach Popovich Effect. Everything they touch turns to gold; it’s a modern-day Midas Touch.
Grandparents do the same with the Grandparent Effect.
While parents are THE most important people in a child’s life, grandparents, good grandparents, are invested in a grandchild’s upbringing. The grandkids are their progeny; the legacy they will one day leave behind.
Grandparents know that time and messy living rooms are fleeting, but memories last forever. They know this because they lived it. While harried parents are busy worrying about the essentials, they do not have time to savor the moments. Grandparents know that a two-year-old escapee running diaperless through the house makes for an endearing and funny memory to treasure, whereas Dada doesn’t. Grandparents know that demanding everyone eat their broccoli is a small fight compared to those looming ahead during the teenage years.
Children need direction. They need to be taught the difference between right and wrong, but grandparents know there are a lot more good moments to be savored than bad moments to be dwelled upon. Children need love and affection. They need direction and instruction. They need to know that if Mommy and Daddy are not there to protect them, then the grandparents will.
The grandparent home is a safe place, a fun place, a learning place. Ears are open. Arms are welcoming. The freezer is full of ice cream. The grandparents run guard when the grandkids need defense, but they also run offense when they need direction.
A child can only benefit from having a loving, extended family, one in which a child can rely on not only his parents but his grandparents as well. I call it the Grandparent Effect.